Ridding yourself of neediness and insecurity in relationships. So by now, you know that the key to getting your ex back is to get rid of all that nasty neediness and insecurity in relationships that’s been weighing you down, because these two things are the biggest killers of all attraction.
Dealing with Insecurity In Relationships
So the next question would be, how do you do it? How do you kick neediness and relationship insecurity to the curb? So that way you can finally get your ex back in your arms. Well here’s the thing, right now, you’re probably still in panic mode, which
means you’re not thinking straight. So you need to step back and take a breather. Which is why most importantly, you got to stop calling them. Stop trying to contact them because you’re going to say things that you regret because you’re not thinking straight. And that’s the last thing you want to do.
So what’s next? What’s next is for you to unwind and start feeling good about yourself again, and to do it as soon as possible. Now ladies, go get yourself a manicure, a pedicure. Go get your hair did. Treat yourself to a spa. Get a massage. Go get some new outfits. Do whatever you got to do to relax and feel good about you. So round up some of your girls, have a girls’ night out, or even consider taking a fun road trip. It’ll be the best thing you can do as cliché as it may sound. Do whatever you need to do to take your mind off it. Just relax and have fun.
And this goes out to everybody. Use this downtime to discover new hobbies and interests that you’ve always wanted to do. Get yourself in the gym. You know, start working off all that stress and anxiety. You have got to clear your mind. And you’re not going to do it sitting around, moping at your house, eating Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. Don’t do it. That is the worst possible thing you can do.
And think about this, too. If the next time you run into your ex, if you look like a disaster, like you haven’t slept in days, and your hair is a mess, how attractive is that going to be to them? Not very. But what if they see you out smiling, feeling good, or even in better shape than they’ve ever seen you before? Well what’s going to happen is they’re going to miss you a hundred times more. I guarantee it. Also, seriously consider taking this time out to just hang out with some new friends. Or what if God forbade you, even go out on a date with somebody else? Why not? Not only is it going to make you feel good about yourself again, but it’s going to help you regain a lot of confidence.
And who knows? Not just so may happen that you find someone else who is even more amazing and even a better fit for you. Now it’s hard to believe right now, I know. But trust me, it happens all the time. I don’t make this stuff up. And when you’re out doing things, working out, staying positive, or even God forbid, going out on dates, you’re going to quickly rid yourself of all the feelings of neediness and overcoming insecurity in relationships.
Also, there’s something else you may want to consider. If you’ve had any addictions or things in your life that has been holding you down or that’s been putting a major strain on your relationship, consider dropping it, whether it’s smoking, drinking, or anything else that you’ve been struggling with. And don’t do this just for them, okay? Do this for you. If it’s something deep down inside that you’ve always wanted you to get rid of, then do it. Because the second you do, you’re going to feel like a new person. You’re going to feel way more confident and way more secure in who you are.
And as an added bonus, this is also going to rekindle a new spark with your love. Because they’re going to see how far you’ve come and what they’re missing out on.